jueves, 24 de febrero de 2011

And baby makes four!

Bebe #2 was born on November 7th, 3kilos and I always forget how many cm ;( horrible I know. Labor was quick and uneventful and I was able to make it to 8cm without the epidural but when it was offered at that point I accepted very happily. I think everything went pretty quickly, it all started around 5am and he was born at 12pm so all in all I was very pleased. The Dr. even said I could go home that evening if I wanted to but we decided that spending the night wouldn't hurt. E was very pleased with his little brother especially since the baby brought him Toy Story 3 ;) My Mom couldn't come see us until the next week so we were on our own for 7 days which I was kind of nervous about. However, that first week went by smoothly with lots of help from Jose's relatives and the baby and I were doing fine. When my Mom got here was when everything started to fall apart. The baby cried a lot, I mean more than normal and hardly ever slept and I was having severe pain in my breasts which I thought was normal for breastfeeding. I was reading everywhere that breastfeeding should NEVER hurt but I thought that I was just adjusting or something. Now,I had fought pretty hard to keep formula away from the baby the one thing that was going for me was the pediatrician was on my side but nurses no, certain family members on Jose's side no, so I was not just going to give up. After a frenzied phone call to my Mom's best friend (who is a nurse) we went to my Dr. and he said it was mastitis (just like Mrs. A had said). So off to the pharmacy for antibiotics. Well the pain lasted for a good 2 more weeks and I felt like the baby was just not growing. Mom helped me stick to it and I am sure she now has a stress ulcer but if she had not been here I would have given up for sure. At bebe's 1 month check up he had only grown a few grams which is not good so we had to start supplementing with formula. I was heartbroken that I could not feed my baby and I had let him go hungry. So after mourning the loss of the idea of being the perfect mom I got over myself and decided that it is okay. It is okay for him to have a few bottles a day, it is okay for the dishes to sit in the sink, it is okay for the floor not to be sparkly, it's okay for Fanny to iron Jose's shirts instead of me, it is all okay as long as my two boys are happy and healthy, we can throw in the third boy for good measure ;)

6 comentarios:

  1. Nikki..He is GORGEOUS!! Just like his brother (and mama!)!!
    Oh dear cousin...sounds like the "baby blues" hit ya a little bit this time around. My best advice I can give to you was the biggest mistake I made with Bonnie...Listen to Miguel. Feed, change, diaper and set him to bed when he asks you to. I was under the imprssion all babies were basically the same, so I tried keeping Bonnie on Mollie's schedule for everything. Mollie rose with the rooster, wanted to eat right away, wanted a morning nap, eat lunch and play, maybe nap again, then snack, then play til dinner, then play til bed. And Im talking, once they get out of that "baby-baby" phase. Bonnie slept late, wanted to socialize before her breakfast, play as long as she could before I'd make her nap, then she'd nap almost half the day, play a bit, eat dinner, then again try and stay up as long as she could before bed. And still to this day...they are both the same way! =)
    So, dont be too hard on yourself that he was hungry...you were doing the very best you know how. Miguel (am I spelling that right?)is not just a baby...he's a tiny person...and you're gonna get a kick outta seeing how diff him and Erique are as he gets a bit older.
    Im so happy for you that you seemed to have an easy labor and delivery and were able to get some pain meds. And how blessed you are to be surrounded by family, and have your mom come to stay, wow! =)
    I wish I could be more accessible to ya. I love nothing more than when a young new mama from our church calls and says: "HELP"!! "Sure, dear, now go wipe your eyes and hide the knives...I'll be right there!" LOL
    I sure do miss you and wish I could hug and kiss those boys! Please tell them that even thought it seems we're worlds apart, their cousin Jessie loves them very much! =)
    Congratulations on your beautiful family!! =)
    (Maybe some day I could mail you the girls' old dresses and frilly stuff, ya think? lol)

  2. Congratulations!

    Man, your first few weeks sounds like mine with my daughter. Ugh. We did feed her with a bit of both (formula and boobie) from the beginning, but during those first few weeks, every bottle she got just felt like a huge defeat for me. Then I realized it didn't really matter how she got fed, as long as she got fed. And then by the time she was 3 months old, she refused ALL bottles--boobie won in the end! And it will with you, too, I'm sure.

    Hang in there! Thanks for being real, that it's not necessarily any easier with the second one. I need to hear that.

  3. Whhooo hoooo Congrats!!! Things get smother and like you said, IT WILL BE OK! Just repeat it like a mantra. Lily is now three months and I'm so glad that first three months is over. Hang in there you'll make it and so will the kids. ;)

  4. Thanks everybody for your comments, I am just now getting to read them almost 2 months later ;) I appreciate them all so much!